Help I need to get over Him, It hurts to much.?

Hello i went through a divorce, I have a good relationship with my ex-husband. I met this great guy (2nd man I have ever been with). And I fell madly in love with but it turned out so bad. He chocked me 2 times. And I have a restraining order against him. But the bottom line is that I love him to death. Everybody tells me he is wrong for me. And I know they are right, he called me at work today. And told me how much he loves me and how much he misses me. And I told him I love you to, but we are just not right for each other. If you love me you have to let me go. I really need help, I don't know if he is manipulating me but I do love him. I wish I could open my eyes to the reality of who he really is. But i have not. He is a great man, that just made wrong choices. He has a criminal background, and when I met him he was homeless, I helped him out with clothes, food, house and love. But he always said that he never asked for those things that i gave them to him freely. Now I am the one going through hard times economically. The judge order him to pay me restitution and he said he would not pay. He broke stuff in my house and he takes no responsibility for them. But the bottom line is that I love that jerk. So please help me, I want to pull him out of my heart once and for all. I changed all my Telephone numbers. I really need positive advice.